[maru2501]

most places you have to knock out some touristy items before you settle in on return trips and become more spontaneous and relaxed. Paris was way better on trip four when I didn't feel compelled to race through museums and art galleries not knowing if I would ever be back. Was much more fun to go to the Nation stop or somewhere grittier (at least years ago)

new york has been the same for me for that reason. And I have had multiple visitors to me in chicago who say the same thing. Visitors feel they must check off certain items but enjoy the city more when they hang out at a neighborhood bar etc