You brought up 3 interesting cases:
Land Use - Property taxes
Non smokers - Health Care premiums
Childless couples - Education tax
I would say go more user fee for the first 2, but not the last, why? Because it's in society's interest to make better use of land, and have people not smoke, but it's not in society's interest for couples to have less kids (well perhaps that's up for debate
I like the idea of bonuses for people who do right
So it's not that people in the burbs would get a penalty, it's that they wouldn't be able to take advantages of bonuses for being efficient with the land use.. although in a way it's all kinda the same thing.