Originally Posted by Pedestrian
One sentence in there really struck a nerve with me: "They want to go to the Christmas pageant and not have their white sensibilities violated because the other parents are too loud and boisterous and it makes them uncomfortable, for really no good reason."
There are cultural issues. Low income African Americans (to speak extremely broadly) are possibly more likely to be loud/boisterous in social settings than other groups. It's a minor thing, but perhaps a proxy for other, less comfortable considerations when choosing schools. Among upper class folks, such behavior could be construed as "ghetto" and these folks probably aren't going to put their kids in an environment with "ghetto" norms.
I mean, there are differing social norms. I don't think it's horrible to acknowledge differences. African Americans are more likely to nod and say good morning to strangers. White people almost never do this. I get a head nod/and or greeting from AAs probably 75% of the time when we're passing on a quiet block. With whites, Hispanics, Asians, basically never.
I will experience this issue soon. I have a 4-month old, and we plan on staying in the city, in public schools. We're in a neighborhood where there's a wide variety of school options, and very different racial compositions. I probably wouldn't put my son in a 90%+ black school (but I would in a majority black school, assuming it's good).