Originally Posted by Rusty van Reddick
I have the same curiosity about SSP Negroes and Mohammedans.
Is it still 1959? Damn Windows 8 telling me it's 2013!
I was wondering if someone would respond like this.
My take on this: I think it's more noticeable because it's extremely rare for someone to chirp on a message board "hey, I'm Black" or "hey I go to church X" - but you definitely see people saying "my boyfriend" when it's a dude, or people saying things like "as part of the gay community", or something. I dunno - other than that SSP picture thread in the Canada section, I have pretty much no idea what any of you look like. Age I can sometimes guess based on life situation (or some of us "old" - term used very loosely in my case - farts griping about our ages), but that's about it. I have no idea of race, colour or creed. But I do know of many, many gay forumers here. It just seems to come up more often than most other personal identifiers. Except parents. You always know who's a parent.
As to "why" there might be more than the average (if this is even the case)? Again my take: as some pointed out, urban issues and urban types *might* be more represented in the gay community. I'm not actually sure that that stereotype even holds true. However I'll broaden things to the Internet as a whole - I find that online, there seem to be many more gay people than in "real life". And NOW we ask the real "why" - personally, I think it's because people are more comfortable being "out" online. I don't necessarily think that gay people are more likely to post online, nor on specific forums. I just think there are a lot more gay people out there in general than most people realize - and online, it's more openly out there.
I could be completely full of shit but I've noticed this pretty much since first going online 20 some years ago. Offline, I find that not every gay person is really open about it (I shouldn't have to go into reasons why this may be), but online, most people are pretty up front. But that could just be due to my own personal associations. Perhaps my friends and co-workers think I'm secretly homophobic, so they don't "come out" to me.
I'm really not sure. It's something I find fascinating, because growing up in a small town 30 years ago, I was taught that very few people were gay. So of course like most people, I just never realized how many gay people I knew. Yet today, it seems like there are so many gays out there (online anyway).
And it's also fascinating to me because Rusty is exactly right - I'm not sure why we'd even care. So I'm kind of caught between my observations in an academic sense, and a bit of self-guilt over why I'd even care about someone's sexual orientation. We're talking about skyscrapers, not a pickup bar.